Single At Home Married In School

MARRIED IN SCHOOL BUT SINGLE AT HOME.*
THOUGH IS QUITE LONG BUT I URGE YOU TO
READ AND THANK ME LATER

Welcome to Nigerian campuses where little girls
are practising 'wifely functions'!
Just visit the boys' hostels and you would be
disappointed to find out that it is now common
for a girl to live in with a course mate. It is now
common for her lover to give her the popular
compliment 'you look sexy my gal' and she would
gladly reply 'thank you honey' with a flirty voice
and a romantic smile. Who is her lover? A 300
level student whose CGPA is barely up to 1.78!
And they are aiming for the next best couple
award for the session by the departmental
association. So, the girl need to live with him to
prepare along.

What nonsense! It seems that some girls
suddenly loose their senses immediately they
gain admission. I've seen that some of them
have no more sense of caution, honour and
dignity. They would change their wardrobes and
acquire a new set of make ups just to look
'campussy' and sexy enough for the guys. In
months, they would start sleeping around with
little boys. I mean boys who collect pocket
money from their uncles! Dirty boys who most of
the time are infected with sexually transmitted
diseases. Hey! I want you to know that you were
sent to school to obtain a degree not a disease.
The campus is called a school; school not sex!
You are on campus to receive education not
expulsion. You are here to master the use of a
pen not the pleasures of a joystick. Wake up girl!
Do some thinking. Your future is greater than the
'best couple award'. You cook for a boy you are
more intelligent than.


You give your virginity to a boy who will
definitely leave you after graduation. You play
wife to a boy who cannot even care for himself.
Oh, you have given too much. Enough! Open your
eyes! Can't you see you're being foolish?
You are passing through the fears of unwanted
pregnancies yet you are opening your legs to a
coward who cannot stand before your father.
And when you eventually gets pregnant, he would
brutally advise you to abort it and you would
timidly agree; then face the consequences later.
What a shame! You may master the use of
condoms but you can't master the punishment of
your conscience. Don't you know you are
bringing shame to your family? Don't you know
that you are cursing your mother by accepting to
sleep with a boy (not even a man) without her
consent?

I cautioned a girl against sleeping around and
she replied 'Sheddy, I don't sleep around; its only
one boyfriend I have and am faithful to him'.
What impunity! That's classified harlotry. And
don't you know that sleeping with a man without
your father's blessings is bringing a curse to your
future?

What happened to your cultural values?
Somewhere in your heart you know he would use
you and dump you; so why are you setting up
yourself for a heartbreak? I want to remind you
that you are a lady and one day you may get
married. And your husband would know that you
are such a dirty Dam who sleeps with anything
on trousers. The greatest gift a lady would give
to her husband on the wedding night is her
virginity less lost it out of (rape) not the
certificate of best couple of the year on campus!
The other gifts for the rest of her life are her
care and character not her curves and
complexion! Real men know this; so, get it
screwed in! Those treacherous boys would call
you 'sexy'

and you would answer? Oh, sorry! They touch
your breast and you would smile? They would
ask you out and you would oblige? Oh, you are
indeed a mistake. I'm not saying that you should
be rude or never live a 'social life' but I want you
to think deeper than you are currently doing. I
want to turn your attention back to your books.
You are not in school for breast exhibition. So,
pay less attention to those boobs and give more
attention to your books! You are not in school for
cat walking show. You are rather here to show
us the dignity of womanhood. You are here to
prove to us that you are costly. So, why make
yourself so cheap?

I am writing this with both love and pain in my
heart and that's why am sounding stern. I know
about two girls now that have been living with
their boyfriend since year one and as it is now
they can't even even count how many abortions
they had for that same boy at sch bae. it's now
like a normal thing to them, the last one she did
almost took her life and that made her bleed for
4 months, imagine how you do feel with ordinary
4 days of menstruation left alone living with it for
months.. As a matter of fact one of them have
damaged her fallopian tube due to excessive use
of contraceptives she has taken to prevent
pregnancy. I want you to look beyond now and
think of what advise you would give your own
daughter when you become a mother. I hope I
have not offended you...if I have, please repent.
To the decent girls I have seen on campus: do
not be swayed by these evil. Be consistent and
keep celebrating your purity. I am always proud
of you. And God is more proud of you.

....... . Thanks.
Bernice Cryout(Voice of Inspiration)
400Level Department of Nursing,
Nnamdi Azikiwe University